Are you living in the Land of Regrets? If you have a pulse then you probably know of what I speak of. We have all been to this dreary land. I have been to this forsaken region, a few times in my life You probably have heard of some of its residences.
Their names are “Shoulda”, “Coulda”, and “Woulda”. My father would call them by a more unsavory name. My father did have a point; although it was not immediately clear. In time, I would come to understand and I’d learn to leave behind these foul smelling brothers.
Are you feeling trapped in this sad place? For some, they are trapped in this place because of past mistakes, shame, and guilt. You don’t have to stay in the Land of Regrets. You can leave this place. Would you like some help in leaving the Land of Regrets?
Isn’t it time that we get going?
It is easy to sit and wallow in the pain of our past mistakes or sins. Yes, I did say the “s” word. Did you not know that there is a difference? A mistake simply means that you did something wrong. For instance, you should have gone to Kean State College; as opposed to Stockton University. You could regret such a decision; however, it is definitely not a sin.
What is the definition of sin? It is doing what is wrong or not doing what is right in the sight of God. In 1 John 3:4, John puts it this way. Sin is lawlessness. Does that put a wrong college or car in that category? I don’t think so.
A few years ago, I was careless in my handling private information. As a result, I got nailed for it and I felt terrible. I could have lived in the Land of Regrets and continued feeling sorry myself. Such sorrow would not have accomplished anything. I would have remained a prisoner of shame and guilt and I would not have been able to fix the problem.
However, I chose to leave the Land of Regrets and move forward. In this case, my action hurt someone and I could not rest until I make an effort to ask for forgiveness and seek to rectify the situation. Yes, I acknowledge my faults to God and asked for forgiveness, as per 1 John 1:9. What of the guy that you hurt? What of him? Have you ever read Matt 5:23-24?
In my heart, I knew what I needed to do. I made every effort to be reconciled with my spiritual brother. If anything, I probably went overboard. Why? Jesus cares about both of us. Did you not know? Have you not heard? God, the Father is very much in the business of reconciliation. It’s why Jesus gave that instruction.
What if, it’s something that I can’t fix? I do understand that there are situations that we can’t fix or undo. I, for one, don’t have the answer to such situations. However, I do know someone who can definitely help you. In case you missed it, it is Jesus of Nazareth.
I would encourage you to ask God and let Jesus help you. It is never too late to invite Jesus into your life. You can trust God to help you. It’s because of love that God, the Father sent the Son to die on the cross for you and me. Does that sound like someone who hates you?
You don’t have to live with the pain of shame and guilt. Such is the fate of those living in the Land of Regrets. In Matt 11:28-29, Jesus says this:
28 “Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
Okay! I just went to the wrong college or something like that! Even you say, a mistake isn’t a sin! What about regrets over one’s past mistakes?
Okay, let’s go there. Did I regret going to Stockton University? When I had gone, it was called Stockton State College. Even then, it was known as the place for parties. You can get a good education; however, you can also get into plenty of trouble.
While there, I got involved in fantasy role-playing games. Yes, I played Dungeons & Dragons and other role-playing games. It’s also where I came to call Jesus, my Lord, and Savior. Could I have gone to some other college? Do I regret any of it?
Within the Land of Regrets, I’d be running through an endless list of possible scenarios in my head. Such scenarios would only cause second guessing of myself and God. It’s a trap and you’ll only hurt yourself and cheat yourself of what is happening around you.
Yes, I did receive an acceptance letter from Kean State College. All things considered, I am glad that I did not go. You and I don’t know the future or how things would have transpired. At Stockton, I met friends who would prove quite helpful to my future life. It’s there I developed my writing talents and learned the art of creative storytelling. It’s also where I came to Christ Jesus.
Do you understand what I just did? I looked at all the positives that occurred. It’s also where I learned some needed skills to help with my own healings. Were there any negatives? Yes, I had a few negatives that happened. Guess what?
I had to learn from my mistakes and move forward. It would have done no good to dwell on past mistakes. If I had done so, then I’d not moved forward in so many areas of my life.
I most certainly would not have written my first book, “You Are Not A Lesser Human: An Anthology of Overcoming” or created Inspiration Point. I would certainly not many of the friends at a few different churches in Phoenix, AZ and Ocean County, NJ.
What about my move to Phoenix? I don’t regret it; as it opened the door for healing. It’s also where I got my first set of jobs and I got to launch myself, as a writer. So many good things happened because I did go there.
What about moving back to New Jersey? At the start, I resented it because of unpleasant circumstances. I did not like moving back to an area that has very limited public transportation and job opportunity. Do I regret it? No, I don’t regret the move.
For one, I got connected to Shore Vineyard Church. Like Stockton University, my home church proved to be full of unexpected surprises. If I had chosen to dwell on the past, then I would have missed out on so many wonderful things. For one, I made some good friends, who I do enjoy. Plus, I got to participate in some real life adventures.
I could go on about the inner healing class offered at Shore or the help with my book. However, I think that you get the point. In the distant past, I did dwell on my past hurts and I had difficulty in moving forward. However, God healed my heart and Jesus helped me, with getting out of the Land of Regrets.
Isn’t it time that you left the Land of Regrets?