Are you easily offended? Are you easily triggered? Earlier today, I talked with some friends about the tearing down of old statues. In our case, the conversation was quite civil and friendly. Sadly, this is not the case for everyone.
Do my friends and I have identical opinions? No, we are each unique individuals and each person has his own views. I’m glad of it; as I don’t have all the answers. Only Jesus can make such a claim. Would you like to learn, “How not to be triggered by every other words or action?”
Let’s start with an obvious point. The only way to avoid conflicts and anger is to leave the planet or live in total isolation. It’s not going to happen and you will only end up being angry at yourself. Though it is not the only place, the Bible does record God saying, “It’s not good for man to be alone!” Long before sociologists and psychologists, God’s Word has pointed to the need to be with others.
Why is it so important to spend time, with other people? We are not helped by people, who blindly agree with us. Rather, we are helped by differing points of view. Without it, we could find ourselves in a heap of trouble.
For this to work, you will need to do one thing. It’s called swallowing one’s pride. Why? Our pride can easily blind us to what’s obvious to other people. It can also cause you to miss what someone else is saying. I’d encourage you to let go.
If you do so, then you may not be so easily offended by someone else’s viewpoint. You may discover something that you haven’t thought of. Don’t let your anger cause you to miss out on what another person is saying to you.
We’re also to encourage each other and spur them onto good work, as per Hebrews 10:24. We can’t receive encouragement and ideas if we’re isolated from other people. Keep in mind, a negative criticism is not the end of the world. It could be the very thing that you need to hear and it may point to a better solution. IHere’s an illustration.
I am a fan of YouTube personalities like Paul Soares Jr., BDoubleO, and a few other YouTube personalities. I watch these guys for fun and relaxation. Let’s say, I get the bright idea to create my own gaming channel. Guess what? Even if, I have a passion for playing video games it won’t take long before I run into problems.
For one, passion for video games does not equal good idea for a YouTube channel. I would need my friends to tell me, the truth. What are you bringing to the table, besides a passion for playing video games? Paul doesn’t just play games. He brings his storytelling talent. John doesn’t just play video games. The young man puts on a show through his current Beau Truck character.
Secondly, a good YouTube video takes time to create, edit and post to YouTube. Though it is livestreaming, Twitch is no different. It takes time to prepare. Plus, a typical stream can last for hours. I would need someone to point out the problems and hopefully give some solutions. By seeking others, I can potentially avoid a lot of grief.
I could have used blogging; however, I felt it best to use a different venue. How did I get the above insights? I did not just spend time in experimenting with my own YouTube channel. I sat and listened to a couple of reliable sources. At times, Paul and John have talked about their job and what is involved. Since I am a fellow content creator, it seems to good to listen; even if they’re in a different stream than me.
If I got offended by negative opinions or a different viewpoint, I could never grow as a human being. My writing talent would never grow. Plus, I could never expand on the diversity of articles or book ideas. Heck, I would not have known to do something about my grammar and spelling. Yes, passion will drive you forward; however, victory is assured through wise counsels.
6 For by wise guidance you will wage war,
And in abundance of counselors there is victory. [Proverbs 24:6]
Let’s not get offended because someone says something that we don’t like. I have found it to be quite helpful to talk to my Father about the issue. This tactic is especially useful when says something I’m not in agreement with. There have been times when Jesus helped me in seeing their point. I am so thankful for God’s faithfulness and love in helping in such situations.
Here is a challenging thought. Do you ever consider the reality that God may be talking with you, through this other person? Sometimes, God brings certain people into our lives for a good purpose. Unfortunately, it is not always easily seen. For this reason, it is a good idea to ask God, “What is going on? Did you send this person into my life, for a reason?”
At the same time, you do need to take responsibility for who you choose to listen to. I knew a guy, who was very critical of me. Yet, I could sense a genuine desire to help me; however, it never came out. Because of the hurts, I placed the man at arm’s length. I simply did not trust him, to be near me.
I believe that my Father had a purpose in this guy. I needed someone, who would confront me and challenge me. I don’t think God intended harm; rather, my Father desired to prune me. In this respect, I do appreciate the opportunity to know him and I suspect that he’d have liked to have done a better job. Do you think I could write this painful story if my heart is filled with anger?
Of course not, I forgave the guy before he died. I did not just forgive the man. I told him that I could perceive the gold buried in him. I could only know this truth through the Holy Spirit. Do you see how I took responsibility for how I dealt with the guy?
Remember, you have a choice and you are responsible for it. You can choose to be angry or offended at every comment or action. You can also choose to forgive and let go of your anger. The choice is yours.
If you are having trouble then I would encourage you to get help. My first suggestion will obviously be to seek God, the Father. Don’t be afraid to talk to Jesus, about it. I’ve also known the value of good counseling and good friends. Either way, you should not let your anger about the past consume you. Get help!